Dating After Deconstruction

May 31, 2022 | Religious Trauma, Relationships, Secular Sexuality

The promise of eternal monogamy I made as a 21 year old christian virgin was one I feel was made under duress and false pretenses. Without an all knowing god promising a perfect plan for your life, such promises certainly hit a little differently now. If you’ve ever had your reality challenged on that level you can imagine how tricky dating after purity culture can be. Writer and speaker Drew Bekius joins me this week for a personal conversation about life and love after faith loss. Catch the episode live at 7p CT 6/2 and be sure to check back afterwards for some footNOTES!

 

‘Virginity’ harms and excludes many of us. Is it time we got rid of it? by Kellie Scott for ABC Everyday

I Left A Very Strict Religion And Had No Clue How To Date Normally by Udenna Agumadu for Your Tango

After Growing Up Christian, I’m Done ‘Dating To Marry’ by Habiba Katsha for Refinery29

Why ‘virginity’ is a damaging social construct by Katy Elliott for School of Sexuality Education

Dating After Deconstructing Your Faith from It’s Trish

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