With greater acceptance for more than monogamous people and designer relationships more and more people are looking for ways to explore themselves, their sexuality and their relationships. Despite what you may hear from people in various non-monogamous communities or from family and friends, it is possible to explore ethical non-monogamy in a way that feels exciting and empowering while still keeping you and your partner(s) safe and secure. Take a look at the video below and be sure to explore some of the resources at the bottom.
Guides on Opening Up-
The Ultimate Guide To Polyamory by Jenna Avery for Suggest
Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton
More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux, Janet Hardy, Tatiana Gill
The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love by Dedeker Winston
Poly Pitfalls-
5 Mistakes Couples Make When “Trying” Polyamory by Shannon Ashley for Medium
Are You in Poly Hell? Common Pitfalls in Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola
Thirteen things I wish I’d learned before choosing non-monogamy by Lola Phoenix for Medium
Best Laid Plans by Kurt Braunohler with Ira Glass for This American Life
You’ve Heard of Polyamory, but What About Ambiamory? by Page Turner
Surfing the New Relationship Energy Wave-
We’ve All Been There: Common NRE Mistakes by Jesse Dagger for Polyamory For Us
New Relationship Energy: What It Is & How to Deal With It by Elisabeth Sheff for Psychology Today
Using New Relationship Energy (NRE) to Open Up rather than Close Down by MEG-JOHN BARKER for Rewriting the Rules
New Relationship Energy NRE (podcast) from Meg-John ad Justin
Brains Do It: Lust, Attraction, and Attachment by Helen E. Fisher from The Dana Foundation
The Rise and Inevitable Fall of New Relationship Energy by Nan J. Wise for Psychology Today
Resources specific to Gay Men-
30% of Gay Men Are in Open Relationships, According to New Study by Matt Baume for Them
Why do so many gay couples open up their relationships? by Michael Radkowsky for Washington Blade
GAY MEN IN OPEN RELATIONSHIPS: WHAT WORKS? from Gay Therapy Center
Podcast #66: Dan Savage on Monogamy by Tracy O’Neill, LIBRARY TALKS PODCAST
The Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage by Michael Dale Kimmel
Other Ethical Non-Monogamy Books-
Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha
The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families by Elisabeth Sheff
Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them by David J. Ley
Overcoming Jealousy-
When Someone You Love Is Polyamorous: Understanding Poly People and Relationships by Elisabeth Sheff
The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern, Eve Rickert & Nora Samaran
The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel
Non-Monogamy Resources-
Multiamory R.A.D.A.R. – A communication tool developed by the Multiamory Podcast Team
Fetlife.com – A way to join your local kink community
Polyfriendly.org – A list of psychotherapists and other non-monogamy informed professionals
Kimchi Cuddles– A collection of all to releatable non-monogamy comics by Tikva Wolf
PolyCocktails– A national collection of poly meet-up groups (must be logged into facebook to use link)
Secular Sexuality– My weekly YouTube talk show about the intersection of sexuality and religious trauma
